Wednesday, October 17, 2012

Hunger Games Hurt!

I love working with teenagers!  I don't always do a good job of getting right down inside of their world or staying on top of all the latest fads, but once in a while I try to read the books or watch shows they are into. Last year one of the hot book series that my high school group was tearing into and talking about was The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins. My own daughter devoured the series and so I decided to pick it up as well.

I was fascinated with why teens loved this series so much.  I admit, I think it was well written.  Every chapter ended with some sort of cliff hanger which drove me to keep reading, but I was really disturbed by the premise and the story line.  If you've not read it, I don't want to be a spoiler, but I think it is safe to say that the premise for the book is horrific. What follows is the main idea for the series. It is set in the future where society is run by an overbearing Capital. After a war - which the Capital decisively won - the country presented is divided into 12 districts.  Every year, in order to remind the districts that the Capital is in control, and to provide entertainment for the Capital residents, each district must send two "tributes," randomly selected, to take place in "the Hunger Games."   These tributes - between the age of 12 and 20 - are then brought to the Capital where they take part in a battle to the death which is televised and "celebrated" throughout the entire country. The books follow the story of two kids from the poorest district.  How they cope with having to fight others to the death and deal with the drama surrounding their programmed lives make up the central story line of the series.  

As I read the series, I enjoyed the twists and turns of the plot but I didn't really like the content.  What fascinated me the most was that when I asked teens why they liked the series; they simply said "It's just sooooo good!"  When I pressed them about what they liked most they said that the whole idea just fascinated them.  It is not that they would ever want to be in that situation or wanted to kill anybody but that they somehow related to the main characters.  

The more I thought about this series and my kids, the more I was reminded of two books by Chap Clark: Hurt and Hurt 2.0.   In these works, Clark has done a great deal of research trying to understand the inside world of today's teenagers.  He describes today's teens as abandoned by the adult world.  I won't get into great detail here because there is not enough room.  Suffice it to say that Clark has done an excellent job of describing much of the pain and confusion of today's adolescents.  When I first read his work, I thought he had overstated his case to make a point.  The more time I have spent thinking through his words and research and talking to teens, the more I believe Chap is accurate in his ideas and conclusions.  

Put these two together, and I think some great connections can be made between what Clark defines as adolescent abandonment and why teens relate to The Hunger Games and seem to love it so much. My point here is simple.  Could it be that our society, including the school system, varsity and club sports, high demand choir and band programs and high academic expectations, make our teens feel like their entire lives are pushed to perform for adults?  Could it be that the high levels of achievement that we drive them toward feel a lot like unwanted expectations that adults force upon them like the tributes are forced to battle each other in the Hunger Games?  Could it be that the competition they feel for spots on the team or top of the class or college admission and scholarships feel slightly akin to the battle the tributes are thrown into against each other?

At the very least, this gives me pause to think about how I value and love the teens around me.  Do my actions as an adult cause them to compete for value or recognition?  Do I love and support them regardless of their performance or talents?  Do the teens I know realize that  - to the best of my ability -  my love and support for them are unconditional, or do they think I only care about what they do?  I don't want any of the kids I care about to be in any form of the Hunger Games, whether real or metaphorical.  I want to do my best to live my life and shape my relationships with them in such a way that they will know that.

12 comments:

  1. Hi Jack! I just wanted to say thank you for letting me listen in on your class that day! I really enjoyed hearing what all the kids had to say about the hunger games too (especially Raquel). It's funny because Raquel and I don't really see eye to eye on the book series and I think that you have really good insight as to why teens like it so much. I think the reason I don't love them is because I look at them from an adult's perspective and I can't understand how they can send their own kids off to die. But I can see now why they relate to it, if they are looking at it from the teen's perspective. It is very interesting to Raquel and I that the four years in between us provides us with such different views.

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    1. Thanks, Tessa, It was great to have you there that night. I wish you and I had more time to talk ad get caught up. Give me a call and i will buy the coffee or Jamba or whatever just to get some time with you!

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  2. Jack -- Wonderful thoughts! Thank you for sharing. I too was really bothered by the premise of the hunger games, but I see hurt in my teens all the time, it had never occured to me to connect the two.

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    1. Ya, I have found it to be a really good way to talk about issues of pain and abandonment with teens. If they are into the books, we can have some really good conversations.

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  3. Great thoughts, Jack. It's certainly true that the world puts teens into competition, not only with adults, but also with other children. Have you seen the application for National Honor Society? Any child who could fill that thing out completely would have an absolutely amazing resume in today’s world. Reading that application, I’m not sure I’d make it in myself! I couldn't win the Hunger games.

    Peer pressure never goes away, I run into it every day. Competition with others will always be there. We, as parents, try to prepare them as best we can. What we can do to mitigate the societal pressure is to let them know that it’s OK to fail. It’s OK to come in last. We’ll continue to love them. More importantly, God will continue to love them without measure.

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    1. Jeff,
      Move back here! I need to sit and have these conversations with you aver coffee as often as possible - which for now is NEWER! sad.

      Thanks for chiming in. I love you, Man!

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    2. Careful what you ask for. He hasn't yet fully laid out His plan for me, so you never know...

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  4. What ever happened to the idea that being average is actually a good thing and something to be proud of? I've worried for years about the how society, parents, schools, sports teams, etc. require so much of our teens that by the time they hit college, they are already burned out. Do we really want our kids to peak in high school? I don't think so.

    Thanks Jack for engaging in this conversation.

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    1. Great point Kim!

      Whatever happened to average!?!

      oh, ya....it's me. :-)

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  5. Jack, I have felt much the same way that you feel about THG. I have actually been criticized by some for my convictions concerning the taking of children's lives, because I "just do not understand the whole story or the big picture." Actually, I believe I...and a number of others...do understand. I can appreciate good writing, plot twists, and the like, but, there are moral and ethical limits...at least for me. I appreciate even more your convictions concerning our own society and the pressure to be adults. As believers, we must consider that Jesus seemed to place the highest value on the innocence of youth...as seen in a number of passages. I believe the idea being conveyed is for believers to continue to attain to "innocence." And once people lose innocence, i.e. become too caught up in the trials and tribulations of "adulthood", it becomes increasingly difficult to come back to it. Blessings, Don.

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    1. Hey Don,
      Thanks for chiming in. I really encourage you to read Hurt 2.0 and think about your comments n light of the research there. I agree with all that you are saying - we live in a world that is increasingly less tolerant and more abrasive to basic moral standards which used to be the norm.

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  6. Great stuff Jack. I got to hear Chap Clark speak just a few days ago and he makes so much sense. All these insane expectations on kids to perform at levels they are not physically, mentally, or emotionally ready for is one of the reasons we choose to homeschool!

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